Información para - Violencia Doméstica - Realidad o Ficción

Información para Violencia Doméstica
Realidad o Ficción

Mito
A person who is abusive cannot be a loving partner.
Realidad

When they are not being abusive, abusers are often described as loving, playful, affectionate, attentive, and sensitive partners.

Mito
Relationship violence occurs in a small percentage of relationships.
Realidad

It is estimated that relationship violence occurs in ¼ to ⅓ of all intimate relationships. 1 in 5 college students reported some form of physical violence and abuse in their dating relationships.

Mito
Relationship violence is a private matter.
Realidad

Rather than being a personal problem, relationship violence has significant effects on individuals and on the entire community.

Mito
The target of the violence must be doing something to provoke the violence.
Realidad

There are problems within any relationship, but it is never acceptable to use violence. Relationship violence is a tactic that an individual chooses to use in an attempt to exert power over and control their partner. The target of the violence is never to blame for the choice an abuser makes to use violence against a partner.

Mito
Alcohol and substance abuse are major causes of relationship violence.
Realidad

Contrary to popular belief, relationship violence is not caused by alcohol use or stress. The only true cause of relationship violence is the abuser's choice to act violently. Abusers use drinking as one of many excuses for their violence and as a way to place the responsibility for their violence elsewhere. Stopping the abuser’s drinking will not stop the violence. Both intimate partner abuse and substance abuse need to be addressed separately, as overlapping yet independent problems.

Mito
People who are abusive in their intimate relationships are violent in all of their relationships.
Realidad

Most abusers do not use violence at the workplace or in other non-intimate relationships to solve conflict. Abusive partners choose to be violent toward their partners in ways they would never consider treating other people. Abuse occurs when the abuser exerts power and control over another.

Mito
Abusers are unable to control their behavior.
Realidad

Violent behavior is a choice. Abusers use violence to control their partners. Relationship violence is a result of abusers using control, not losing control. Their actions are very deliberate. Abusers choose to be violent toward their partners in ways they would never consider treating other people.

Mito
Stress is a major cause of relationship violence.
Realidad

Everyone experiences stress in their lives at some point, but the reality is that not everyone is abusive toward their partners. In other words, relationship violence is not caused by stress. The only true cause of relationship violence is the abuser’s choice to act violently.

Mito
Relationship violence is more common in heterosexual relationships than in LGBT relationships.
Realidad

Members of the LGBT community are less likely to report incidents of relationship violence; however, it is estimated that 1 in 4 lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender people are abused by a partner. All statistical data and estimates of LGBT domestic violence are proportionate to heterosexual domestic violence statistics.

Mito
Relationship violence occurs most often among low-income families.
Realidad

Studies of domestic violence consistently have found that partner abuse occurs among all types of families, regardless of income, profession, region, ethnicity, educational level, or race. However, the fact that lower income victims and abusers are over-represented in calls to police, domestic violence shelters, and social services may be due to a lack of other resources.

Mito
The violence can’t really be that serious.
Realidad

Relationship violence is rarely a one-time occurrence and usually increases in frequency and severity. All forms of relationship violence, including verbal abuse, can have serious effects on the health and well-being of the person who is targeted by the violence.

Mito
Someone who is targeted by violence should just leave the relationship.
Realidad

The decision to end a relationship is not an easy one. There are many reasons that can lead an individual to stay in a relationship with someone who is abusing them. In most cases, the abuser is not always abusive.

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