Domestic Abuse Quiz
Our relationships and families should provide us with the things we all need: like love, being cared for, support and safety. But sometimes this is not our experience…
Does your partner, your boyfriend or girlfriend, your friend, your care giver, or a family member:
- Make you feel uncomfortable or afraid?
- Often put you down, humiliate you, or make you feel worthless?
- Constantly check up on what you’re doing or where you are going?
- Try to stop you from seeing your own friends or family?
- Make you feel afraid to disagree or say ‘no’ to them?
- Constantly accuse you of flirting with others when this isn’t true?
- Tell you how the household finances should be spent, or stop you having any money for yourself?
- Stop you from having medical assistance?
- Scare or hurt you by being violent (like hitting, choking, smashing things, locking you in, driving dangerously to frighten you)
- Pressure or force you to do sexual things that you don’t want to do?
- Threaten to hurt you, or to kill themselves if you say you want to end the relationship?
- Have your children heard or seen these things or been hurt themselves?
- Has your partner used a weapon against you? Or threatened to?
- Have you been hit, choked, slapped, pushed, bitten, burned or grabbed?
- Has your partner threatened to beat or have sex with your children unless you do what he says?
- Has he forced you to have sex?
- Does he keep or take your paycheck against your wishes?
- Does he refuse to let you take the car?
- Does he make it hard for your friends or family to visit you?
- Does he regularly call you names?
- Does he say no one would ever want you if you left him?
- Do you change what you want to do because you’re afraid of his temper?
- Are you afraid if you left him he would kill you? Or himself?
- Has he made you commit a crime? Use drugs or alcohol against your will?
- After hitting you, does he act sweet and loving? Say he’s sorry? Cry? Buy gifts? Want sex?
- Does he want to know where you are every minute?
- Does he have extreme highs and lows?
- Has he hit a former partner?
- Does he believe you belong to him? Is he cruel to animals?
- Did he grow up in a violent family?
- Does he appear charming to outsiders?
- Does he treat you well in public but not in private?
- Does he say he can’t help losing his temper? Or that YOU made him lose it?
If you have answered ‘yes’ to any of these, there are signs that you are not being treated right, or that you are being abused. If you don’t feel safe, respected and cared for, then something isn’t right.
“As painful as it is to admit that we are being abused, it is even more painful to come to the conclusion that the person we love is someone we cannot afford to be around.” - Unknown
Abuse happens when one person tries to control or hurt another. Abuse may be physical, such as hitting, pushing or choking.
Abuse can also be other things, like putting you down and making you feel worthless, or being possessive and jealous to stop you from speaking to friends or family. Forcing or tricking someone into doing sexual things is also abuse. These things can be just as hurtful as physical violence.